Let’s make things clear. Self-confidence is much more different from being a narcissist. So how can you identify if you are dating one? It is important to determine such because constantly spending time with them can take a toll on your health.
This post will give you a quick checklist to see if you are dating a narcissist. But bear in mind that you can’t diagnose your partner. Leave that to experts because there are still more factors to consider.
Signs of a narcissist
Just so you know, narcissistic personality disorder or (NPD) is a real mental health condition and must be taken seriously. Here are some of its most common attributes:
- extreme need for attention
- always wanted to be admired
- less emphatic towards other people
- usually in a troubled relationship
- extremely selfish
They shower you with love at the onset
When you are dating someone and they are too ‘adorable’ and seems all over you even on the first few dates, be cautious. We know we all love being showered with sweet words and actions, but real love mostly grows overtime – not after a couple of dates.
They talk about themselves
There’s nothing wrong if you talk about your achievements. But overdoing it can be a sign of this mental condition. A person suffering from NPD would talk about themselves and would care less about your own achievements. They would even magnify or sometimes exaggerate stories so they will look and sound even better. Most of the time, they would fish for compliments. Quite the contrary belief, narcissist have very low self-esteem.
They don’t care about how others feel
Simply put, they lack empathy. Even if you had a bad day at work, they will still find ways to direct the conversation to them instead of making you feel better. Worse, they have a habit of making others feel bad about themselves. They would always want to feel superior and will magnify your imperfections. And of course, don’t expect that they will apologize after.
Truth be told, constantly dealing with the same scenario can be emotionally and mentally damaging. In some cases, a narcissist will hinder you from seeing your friends and loved ones. Imagine what it can do to you. Maybe right now you can still bear all the drama and pain, but you might lose yourself in the long run.
How do you get out of the situation?
You see, no matter how you love the person, it wouldn’t be enough to change someone with NPD. They badly need professional help. As for you, you also have to take care of yourself. Here are the things you have to do.
- Remember that you are worthy of a better relationship
- Think about your friends and family who genuinely love and care for you
- Get in touch with people who can help you with your struggle
- Have a vacation or get therapy on your own
- Try to tell your partner to get professional help
Do not be blinded by the relationship you have. Think if it is still worthy to keep. If you are losing yourself in the process, your relationship is bound to get messy sooner or later.