Just a reminder, staying in a toxic relationship will never be good for your health. It can really cause serious damage and you have to be careful. It is a must that you assess the relationships you are in. We are not just talking about your romantic relationship. Check your ‘friends’, your colleagues, and other people who surround you. Are they toxic? Are they good for me?
How to know if a relationship is toxic
Of course, there is no perfect relationship. At times you’d encounter conflicts and misunderstanding. But how can you define a toxic one from the not? Perhaps, the guide questions below might help you.
- When spending time with that person, how do you feel? Are you usually happy, or drained?
- Do you feel empty and useless after spending time with that person?
- Do you think you are safe with them? Or are you always scared that something might happen?
- Do you think there is a need to change yourself for that person in order to be likeable?
Simply put, a healthy relationship has that sense of security. On the other hand, toxic relationship will leave you depressed or will make you question a lot of things.
Effects of toxic relationship to your health
Here are few of the negative health effects if you stay in an unhealthy relationship:
Clearly, it has a toll on your mental health. However, it can also increase the risks of a heart attack! Thus, you have to take action. Otherwise, you are decreasing the years of your life.
What to do if you are in a toxic relationship
Identify if you are in one
You can use the guide questions above to see if you are living in a hellish relationship. If you are, then you have to accept it. Do not deny it and do not sugar coat the bad things that are happening to you. You can never get out of the situation if you will not acknowledge it first.
Improve your self-esteem and know your worth
One of the reasons why people stay in a toxic relationship is that they don’t know their worth. They feel that they don’t deserve to be treated properly and that’s why they settle. That’s wrong! Know your self-worth, know how you should be treated, and improve your self-esteem. You can improve it by going out more often and learning new things in life.
When you are in a toxic relationship, we encourage you to speak up. Staying silent will get you nowhere. But you have to be careful with your words. You can say, “I feel that you only see the bad things about me and it makes me feel horrible. I care about you and I appreciate if you would stop pointing all my mistakes.” Of course, the case is different when you are in a physically abusive relationship. If this is the case, get help. Do not be embarrassed and call for help before it’s too late.
And lastly, if you feel that the relationship will not change, get out. It might be painful, but you have to save yourself.